Thoughts on the joy of life and some exercises to
If you feel that you are not entirely happy yet, it is probably because all things are not yet your will. That is the weakest quality of happiness – conditionality. Happiness means conditional joy from something or someone: “I am happy when I receive it. I’m happy when I achieve that. I’m happy to meet someone like that. I’m happy to solve this shit. “All of these statements contain an “if I…” condition.
But above all, the requirements should be the joy of life instead. The joy of life is something so simple and basic that it usually goes unnoticed because we suffocate it with conditionality. The joy of living does not mean the happiness that comes with some achievements, but simply the pleasure of living for oneself. The joy of life is above all our goals, dreams, and hopes – it is pure joy that we are still alive.
How to experience the joy of life?
The first thing after waking up is realizing that I exist. We always go to bed alone. And we always wake up alone. There is no conditionality in sleeping and waking up. No matter how much I love another person, and no matter how much I don’t want to be with him, I have to give him up every night. I fall asleep, I lose consciousness, and I am entirely alone.
Precisely the same things happen when you wake up. When I wake up, I’m alone. A few moments later, I remember what is happening in my life, and accordingly, I create the first state of the day. When I am all right in life, I have good thoughts, and I am happy. However, if I have problems and something is missing, I will remember them, and I may be sad again. Again, this conditionality.
But the joy of life exists before the first thought, before conditionality. That is the moment when you wake up and realize that you are still alive. It is the pure joy of being placed in us by nature itself. For example, watch children or animals when they wake up. They are so direct and cheerful that they have “revived.” They seem to be born again every morning. Animals are not at all, but children are not yet. They cannot abuse their mentality towards themselves – animals do not have worries, and children do not have concerns yet. That is why they can experience the pure joy of living so directly.
No one can stop us from experiencing it either. It exists. That is our most fundamental condition.
The triumph of positive psychology
If we decide to live the life of an average person, we must find ways to enjoy life. However, there are few enlightened Buddhas who have risen above their desires and desires in the world. As ordinary people, we must seek joy through some other means. We may realize that the joy of life exists, but even 99.99% of the people who work all their lives to achieve this state still leave this world clinging and suffering.
A year ago, there was a significant breakthrough in psychology. Namely, so far, people studied psychology to bring “sunk” individuals back to normal. That means that science had mapped out how an average person behaves, and psychology, therefore, looked for ways to help those individuals who had fallen below that limit of normalcy.
However, the pioneers of positive psychology – Phil Stone, Ellen Langer, and Tal Ben-Shahar – noticed that some people have fallen below average and need psychology. Some people are above normal, achieving much better results at work and private life, and living thereby significantly better life. They became more and more interested in what these “special” people do differently. They have torn beyond the bounds of normalcy and thus enjoy a better quality of life. In this way, a new direction of psychology began. Which did quickly christened “positive psychology.” And under the name of which thousands of scientific studies have done over the last 20 years on how positivity and zest for life help achieve better results.
Positive psychology was about as groundbreaking in science as Copernicus’ discovery that the Earth revolves around the Sun, not the other way around. Similarly, for several hundred years, that thought that happiness revolves around success: go to a good school, get a good job, make a career, get rich, and then happiness comes. However, positive psychology has refuted this claim through its research, saying instead: be cheerful, optimistic, and happy, thereby increasing your capacity by up to 30%, as a result of which you will achieve success both at work and in private life. Worth a try, isn’t it?
Positivity is in everyone’s own hands.
Another significant discovery did make in the early 1990s. This time, not by psychologists, but by brain scientists. Who discovered that the human neuron structure (brain) could reprogram itself for the rest of its life, not just until the age of twenty, as previously thought.
When we combine these two discoveries – above average, several very cheerful people achieve much more. And the brain’s ability to reprogram itself regardless of age – we come to fascinating facts:
Fact 1. No matter what kind of person you have considered yourself to be, you can change that.
Fact 2. By making yourself a more positive and cheerful person, you will achieve much better results both at work and in your private life. You are happier, you have a better relationship, and you enjoy life more.
How to increase the joy of life?
In the light of the above, the question of one million euros, both literally and indirectly, arises: “How to increase the joy of life to live a better private life and enjoy better results at work?”
Below I will share with you five straightforward techniques that will help you be more positive and thus reprogram your brain and enjoy a better life in the long run.
Joy Exercise 1: Think of something positive.
Keep your thoughts on something positive that is coming into your life. For example, you plan to go on a trip in two weeks, or already this Friday, for a violent birthday. Think about these events. Studies have shown that people who think only of their favorite movie increased their body’s production of the happiness hormone endorphin by 27% – they were 27% happier at the time than usual.
Joy Exercise 2: Do something good
Conscious and ego-free good deed raises our feeling very much. One study involving more than 2,000 people showed that people who decided to say or do something nice to someone three times a day felt significantly more positive in the following weeks than before.
Joy Exercise 3: Meditate
Researchers have discovered that monks and Yogis have meditated. For decades have a much more advanced frontal lobe, the most critical “center of happiness” in humans than ordinary humans. However, it is not necessary to meditate for ten years to create a positive state of mind. Studies show that 5-15 minutes a day is enough to lower our stress levels and make us feel more positive and empathetic.
Joy Exercise 4. Do a little physical exercise
It has long stood that physical exercise produces the happiness hormone endorphin in our body, making us feel good and optimistic. However, research in recent years has shown that regular exercise significantly reduces the risk of relapse after depression. In one study, both medication and practice were used to combat depression, with 38% of those taking medication relapsed after six months, but only 9% of those taking the training.
Joy Exercise 5. Allow yourself a beautiful experience
If you like shopping, you know how good it feels. However, the pleasure of regular shopping is very short-lived. However, spending our money not on things but exciting experiences significantly increases our level of happiness. A study of 150 people found that people who decided to spend money on adventures, concerts, etc. Experienced substantially more joy over some time than those who paid the same money on things like clothes or electronics.
It is up to you whether you use these exercises or not. Positive psychology shows that the joy of life “overcomes” stress and depression. Which team do you choose?