Fifteen reasons to pursue your dreams- if you are afraid.
REASON 11. YOU BELIEVE ALL YOUR THOUGHTS
Especially those who tell you, “Don’t bother!”. There is no word like “bother.” It is available in our language and is still very actively used in many languages.
The mind is a factory of thoughts. It produces new ideas at any moment, some of which are useful, but the vast majority are repetitive and insignificant. Our choice is what and how much we believe in our thoughts.
Thinking is the same technique as sleeping. You sleep so that your body can rest. You are thinking of finding a solution to the situation. While you wake up in the morning, you get to one side by sleep. But when you stop thinking, you have a new idea in 2 seconds. We can’t get peace from them, and we believe all our thoughts.
Imagine that you cannot control sleep in the same way that you cannot control thinking. You try to wake up all the time, but as your attention distracts, you are asleep again. What would it be like in your life then? Just the way most people are. They live their whole lives in their heads and minds, not noticing that real life takes place outside.
Notice your thoughts and try to map them in some way. You may notice how most thoughts are repetitive and tell you the same thing all the time. If there is a problem in your life, your thoughts will always tell you about the situation. But has thinking ever solved any of your problems? Hardly because issues are solved by action, not thinking. Yes, it is necessary to believe, but it is essential to think constructively. And once we think about it, we may not think about it anymore. Then it’s time to act in the real world.
The most dangerous are the thoughts that tell us, “We can’t do it,” “We’re not good enough,” or “Don’t bother.” These are destructive and sabotaging patterns of thought that keep us from acting. And if we do not work, we will never fulfill our dreams.
Thoughts are and will remain. We can’t turn off our thinking, but we can notice them and pay less attention to them. Let those thoughts be, don’t just believe all your ideas.
Thoughts are not the only phenomena that exist within us and guide us. In addition to thoughts, there are three more groups of inner world objects that affect us daily. Until we can notice them and give meaning to them, we are automatically their slaves.
The objects of this inner world are beliefs, habits, and emotional reactions.
Beliefs and habits have already occurred discussed above. These are the subconscious and recorded programs that guide us. If we design them for our good, everything is fine. However, as long as beliefs and habits conflict with our dreams, we always try to fight 96-98 percent subconscious with 2-4 percent of potential. That is a hopeless struggle between David and Goliath.
The first step to turn the situation to your advantage, the first step is to notice or become aware. Until you know you have conflicting beliefs and habits, you can’t change them. However, if you see them and consciously replace them with new ones, they will eventually develop into subconscious programs to help you move forward.
Different people and different life events create other emotions inside us. Psychologists say that a person has about 300 emotions that motivate him to act. When something good happens in our lives, we respond with positive emotion. However, if something is objectionable to us, we are stingy and do not forbid others to experience it.
It is the moments when life goes against our expectations that are critical to self-development and the fulfillment of dreams. Years of research by researchers have shown that the most successful are the most consistent people. Consistency means that a person remains purposeful in all life situations – even those where things do not go in his favor. These are the moments when a person uses his or her emotional intelligence, becomes aware of his or her emotion, and acts adequately independently of emotion.
If someone did something you didn’t like, our usual automatic reaction is resentment. However, resentment can cost our dreams dearly in certain situations. It is helpful to notice at the right moment how anger arises in us, but not to show it, but to get rid of it. When you find out, you become emotionally intelligent.
Life is full of activities we don’t like. It’s the same with dreams. Not all activities that are necessary to make your dreams come true can be intense and inspiring. Sometimes you need to do things that seem annoying and pointless. In this situation, meaningful activities help.
Start your work, for example. Do you love your job? What do you like about your job? Is there anything at all that you experience, or is everything repulsive to you?
Even if you find everything reluctant at first glance, don’t rush to change jobs. Research shows that people who do not know how to make sense of their current job do not know how to do it in other occupations. They always hope that there is a dream job somewhere, all the enjoyable tasks, and never create a routine. That is an illusion. Even watching TV and walking around with friends becomes disgustingly annoying at some point. Therefore, it makes sense to use another solution – meaningful activities.
What do you mean when you do activities you don’t enjoy? Do you think about how disgusting this activity is, or can you pay attention to the broader aspects that are affected by your action?
Start making sense of your actions with a simple arrow exercise. Take A4 paper and write an activity or task in the upper left corner that seems pointless to you. Now draw a small arrow to the right of it and write down why you are doing it. For example, if you don’t like ironing, type:
Ironing => Shirt gets ironed => I look right at work => I look reliable to clients and employers => I get better results => I make more money / I get more recognition => I go to Thailand => I’m relaxed, smiling, and happy.
Do you notice how ironing makes a direct contribution to keeping you rested, smiling, and happy?
Too frequently, we focus too narrowly on our activities. It may seem that bosses are teasing us with silly tasks, and we have many more important things to do. No, it’s not like that. It is not usually a question of action but of our interpretation of action. If you can give the correct meaning to the activity, each task can have meaningful value for you.
CAUSE 14. YOU CANNOT START YOURSELF
Laziness is the death of dreams. However, we all struggle with it from time to time.
Sometimes it seems that there is no way to get up and start dealing with the matter. Although we know it needs to do done, and we know it will bring us closer to fulfilling our dreams, we still find a hundred excuses for not doing so.
When we start with new things, we remain driven by inspiration – we want to deal with it right away. After a while, however, it is necessary to introduce a new tool – motivation. Motivation means acting in moments when there is no inspiration.
But there is a tiny step from motivation to inspiration. Quite often, it happens that shortly after we start acting through self-compulsion, inspiration re-ignites in us, and everything falls back on. We only need a small amount of creating energy to get started, and everything moves on more quickly.
It is essential to be able to start. If we can’t do that, we can fall asleep all our lives. We are tired; our friends come to visit, we watch something exciting on TV. Well, listen. That way, you can’t get closer to your dreams.
One study showed that human start-up energy is equivalent to 20 seconds. That means that if we want to do something that we don’t usually bother to do, we should organize things to take us less than 20 seconds to do it.
For example, you desire to start running, but you find several reasons not to go every time you get home. The 20-second rule says that if you had your running clothes ready on the couch (one study participant went so far as to go to bed with tracksuits in the evening), and it would take about 20 seconds to pull them back, it would be much easier to get your workout. You have to cross that “don’t bother” threshold, and if that threshold is lower than 20 seconds, it seems easy to us.
The same is true of the current article. It’s a pretty long article, and I postponed it for a long time to get started. Even after I wrote the first part, I still found something “more important” to do than to rewrite this article. In the end, I did so to keep this article open all the time. Every time I opened my computer, this article was ready. I just paused and started writing. Now I’m done.
Starting tasks (exceptionally inconvenient and strenuous) is the most critical start. If you can exceed your starting threshold, your productivity will increase significantly.
REASON 15. YOU ARE JUST LAZY AND COWARDLY
Some people are just cowards. They dare not do anything new and exciting because they are afraid that nothing will come of it. And so they live their whole lives, fearing, worrying, and at the same time dissatisfied because things are not as they would like.
We always lose only two things: money and pride. If our goals are economical, we can lose money. Maybe we have saved some time, and now we are afraid of losing it. Yes, that is justified, but if you are not ready to invest your money in a project, you do not believe in that project. But if you don’t believe in your project, nothing will come of it anyway. This project has already failed.
Second, money is flowing. If money stays in place, it is worthless – it simply loses its value. Otherwise, money would not be called currency in English, which can also do derived from the word current. Yes, money must flow. You have to be able to make money, but in the right moments, you have to be ready to leave it for you so that he can come back again.
If we lose money through some projects, then yes, we will lose money, but we will be richer inexperienced. Experience is worth much more than money. You can’t take money to where we all go one day. However, you can let your experiences and memories pass through your head at the last second before leaving.
Experience increases your value. Every failed project gives you knowledge of how you can’t do it. No one can be born a genius – we learn to be geniuses. However, learning takes place most effectively through losses and failures. How many would successful people in the world never fail? I would even venture to ask, how many are successful who would not have repeatedly failed in the early years? Remember, our most crucial success factor is consistency. Those who recover the fastest from their losses and put the experience back into practice will win.
You can lose money, but you can always make money back. Money is not easy to come from anywhere. Making money is always about you and your skills. And if you once knew how to make money, you will learn how to do it in the future. So don’t be hesitant to invest money in your dreams.
In addition to money, we can lose our pride, which is even stupider. However, money is something measurable and concrete. But what is satisfaction? It’s just an idea of yourself. But the idea is so “big” that it prevents many people from making a difference in their lives because they are afraid of what other people think of it.
Here is your life. And here are your rules. If you are 85 years old one day, which one interests you more, is what other people thought of you 35 years ago, or that you made the changes that made you happy?
It is regularly better to regret what you did, not what you did not do. We do things with inspiration, creativity, and courage. Sometimes we win, other times we lose. But at least we do and try to enjoy life, live it to the fullest, and be happy. Yes, maybe some things will go to think about doing something different later, but we can always say that we just lacked experience. We did it for good purposes, and we have no point in regretting or blaming ourselves.
But if we fail to do things for fear that we will regret it later, we will live our lives in vain and meaninglessly. We may have brilliant ideas, but we do not dare to realize them because we do not know exactly how things are going.
No one ever knows how everything will go. That is the charm of life. When driving in the dark, we can see no further than 100 meters, but that does not mean that we leave the car on the road and wait terribly for the morning. No, we trust that we can drive in the dark and keep going. The same attitude could be alive.
When I have dreams, I do my best to make those dreams come true. It is not necessary to stress too much and worry all the time if and how they do still fulfilled, but to let yourself be guided and act bravely but calmly at the moment. Sometimes fears arise, but fears are there to overcome them. We only have this life, and our choice is how we live this life. Do we boldly and strive for dreams, or regretfully and in old age, why did we let other people live all our lives?
ADDITIONAL RECOMMENDATIONS FOR SELF – MOTIVATION
Thank you for reading this article. All the thoughts in it last used in my own daily life have helped me a lot. Yes, they are not unique ones, but they are practical and proven.
I want you to be happy. If you don’t know how to be satisfied yet, I wish you weren’t at least unhappy. Too many people live their lives unhappily – they don’t dare to act. I hope you weren’t one of them. And that’s why I wrote this article.
Read inspirational books
Bookstores and libraries are full of exciting, inspiring, and motivating books. They help us. If you sometimes feel that you lack courage, skill, and inspiration, don’t hesitate to draw from the books.
Communicate with inspiring people
Find people in your circle who also want to do something fierce and powerful. Avoid those people and friends who “drag you down” and exhaust you all the time. Yes, people have to help, but people can only be allowed to help themselves. The best way to help a friend in trouble is to brainstorm and figure out how he or she can resolve the situation through courage. One way is to recommend the article above to him.
Reflect on your achievements so far
You’re already good. Even if you don’t believe it, many people around you admire you. Believe them more. You’re good, and you can do it. Take your time and respect and praise yourself. Remember both small and large moments when you did something you were happy. And be prepared! You will soon be even more surprised by the fulfillment of your future activities and dreams.