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Don’t believe everything you think- suffering is selective.


So how do you understand what to believe and what not? When it does scientifically proven that more than 70,000 thoughts are formed in our heads every day. Then knowing it will not help us in any way. People believe in so many different things, though they believe in astrology, psychics, homeopathy and alternative medicine in general, conspiracy theories, and other strange things. Beliefs arise for various personal, emotional, and psychological reasons and seem influenced by family, friends, colleagues, culture, and society. When an idea does create, it does defend and justified by several arguments. Thoughts come first, then explanations.

One of the best examples is to offer when, in the early Middle Ages, witches began to do burned en masse against Christianity’sistianity’s background. And there are known cases where just someone complained about someone, and a person was killed based on that complaint without further consideration of whether that complaint did base on the truth at all.

The brain

A brain is a machine of beliefs that finds patterns and creates meaning for them. These patterns and purposes shape our understanding of reality. Once ideas do establish, the brain begins to look for evidence to confirm and support their views. As a result, ideas become stronger. Sometimes it would be essential, especially when it comes to self-belief.

From time to time, beliefs may arise simply from one important event. It is sporadic for someone to weigh the evidence for and against something, analyze probability, and make an emotional decision. To see through irrational and dangerous beliefs, we need to look at every statement and story through a filter of skepticism and science.

Don’t believe everything you think could be an anxiety slogan. Sorrowful thoughts that do not want to leave your head make you feel trapped in a prison you have created, where breakfast is fear, tension for lunch, and hopelessness for the evening.

One sentence that affected me for a very long time.

After graduating from elementary school, my teacher wrote in my characterization that I could not study in high school. I still remember that sentence, but it was very offensive at the time. It turned out to be a different effect for me, and I started working after that, and I went to work and school, and later I finished high school. But not with the others just two years later, It was a challenging time when I went to work and school, but that sentence haunted me and became a driving force.

Such typical stories have happened to everyone in our lives, just put your words in the same sentence, and you will get the same result. Haven’t you ever wondered how we let ourselves be affected for years by something that someone once said and carry that burden with us, and we do internally convinced that they were right.

At this point, I would like to share a story that shows the absurdity of our thoughts. One young man who grew up with foster parents admitted that he could have asthma because his father has asthma. The story follows that he grew up with a father who did not accept him and even told him so, and therefore the boy began to believe that he did not deserve a better fate than to remain ill, he was not his father’s fleshly son, yet man thought he could have asthma. Dear parents, don’t even jokingly mention something to your child that bothers you about it. It can leave the child with a lifelong scar.




Meditation is one part of how to overcome your excess thoughts. In Meditation, you will understand what the background of your thoughts is and how they gather and why negative thoughts arise, and at the same time, positive reviews do form better.

Is the situation uncomfortable, or is it our interpretation?

Generally, when we experience negative emotions, we say that they cause specific situations or others’ actions. I think we believe that events outside of us drive our discomfort. In other words, we make our feelings external to causal properties. We think we are angry because our partner has not accepted us. We cannot control something, instead of realizing that we can regulate the emotions that arise when we do not focus on others’ actions and interpret them.

What does it mean? It is we who are angry about the interpretation of this situation. We thought he didn’t answer us because something was happening to us or because he was stupid.  Who didn’t know that? The point is that what has actually and objectively happened should not bother us.

If instead of these thoughts, other types of “You haven’t heard me” or “He’s focused on his things,” it’s nothing personal “… Do you think you feel the same way? Not. We certainly wouldn’t have bothered a little. This example highlights a reality that we have not always remembered or that we have not even known: the effect of thoughts on discomfort.

Lost in thought
The human mind is always processing the world around it. Every day is a constant flood of thoughts, questions, and observations.

If you have ever sat in meditation for 10 minutes, you have experienced that thoughts arise (and pass) quickly even if you do not have them do it.

If all these thoughts had a powerful effect, constant thinking would not be a problem! But all too often, beliefs mislead you, take you down, or hinder your ability to do things that matter to you.

Many types of thoughts prevent you from living your best life.

For example.

Scary thoughts narrow your thinking and prevent you from taking action.
Anxious thoughts cause discomfort at the moment.
Anxious thoughts create unpleasant feelings for the future.
Distracted thoughts draw your attention from things that are important to you.

It is not always possible to control when these thoughts arise. But you can develop strategies to respond to them in a way that doesn’t bring you down.

The principle that gives you these powers is that your thoughts are not always right, so you don’t have to believe them.

Don’t believe everything you think.

While it is true that you experience each of your thoughts, they do not always mean what is right in the world.

In most cases, your thoughts are just a story you tell yourself to make sense of the world. It’s all based on your interpretation of the world around you, not a universal truth about reality.

But if you hold on to your thoughts as if they were the ultimate truth, unpleasant feelings will surely follow.

To avoid this scenario, you can equip yourself to deal with these thoughts more effectively.

Suffering is selective (there are two strategies for unleashing)

Some thoughts appear in an instant. Others are repeated and represent a longer story in your mind.

Given the different nature of ideas, it is useful to equip yourself with several processing strategies.

Using Spiritual Marking to Release Temporary Thoughts
Using work to get rid of essential and repetitive thoughts that cause suffering

1) Letting go of temporary thoughts at the moment

One minute you may have a job challenge, and the next minute you laugh at a friend’s joke.

Such examples illustrate how all thoughts and their respective mental states are temporary.

This fact gives you the strength to avoid irritating negative thoughts.

Its strategy is called mental marking. Here is a technique derived from insight meditation.

With spiritual note-taking, you carefully record thoughts or sensations as they arise in your head, giving them a simple one-word description. (e.g., warm, tense, anger, etc.)

There are many benefits to noticing what you think is happening. That will help you stay present and see the content of your consciousness more clearly. It creates a space between you and the thoughts you experience, which gives you more power to act.

How to implement “Subscription.”

Watch what comes to your mind, be it a thought or a sensation.
Note this idea gently, curiously, giving it a one-word descriptor. (Along: “Ah, I see: fear.”)
Let it pass. Resist the urge to capture a thought or feeling. Over time, it fades as an overwhelming sensation, and you can let it give.

Andy Puddicombe, the founder of the gas phase, uses the metaphor of “brushing crystal glass with feathers” to describe the technique of Mental Noting.

You do not reject or reject the idea. Instead, you easily acknowledge its existence so you can bypass it.

2) Releasing repetitive narratives
Everyone experiences repetitive thoughts that cause dissatisfaction at some point.

Often these are the thoughts that should be. (e.g., “The world should be different” or “My important other should behave differently.”)

Such thoughts are permanent. It may seem like your thought is a broken record, coming to this stressful thought over and over again.

“Work,” Byron Katie is a process of investigation that helps you identify and doubt the thoughts that are causing you the most suffering.

The main content of the work is straightforward: believing your thoughts often leads to suffering. That means that grief is selective because your thoughts are not always real. You can choose not to go out of your mind.

Or in his own words:

“I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered, but when I didn’t believe them, I didn’t suffer, and that applies to every person. Freedom is just as easy. I found that suffering is not obligatory. Never lost, not for a moment. That joy is always in everyone. ”
—Byron Katie

So what exactly is The Work?

Here is a direct approach that does divide into two parts:

Four research questions
Three turns.
Part 1: Four research questions
To begin, find an idea that will cause you suffering in some way. If you have problems with another person in your life, Katie’s “Judge Your Neighbor” worksheet is an excellent way to find those thoughts.

Once you have found an idea that is causing you suffering, continue with the following four questions:

Is this true? (Yes or no. If no, go to question 3.)
As we discussed earlier, most thoughts are just stories. These are not universal truths from the world. This question forces you to consider reality in a specific context.
Do you know for sure that this is true? (Yes or no.)
You can feel strongly that this idea is right! If this seems correct at first glance, try again. Can you know that this is true? Be honest with yourself.

How do you react to what happens when you believe this idea?
Find out what you are doing to yourself by choosing to hold on and believe. Does this thought cause peace or stress? What emotions and physical sensations arise when you think of this idea?
Who would you be without that idea?
Think about what it would be like to let go of the thought that drives you down. How would you feel?

Part 2: three turns
The twists and turns help reveal the contradictory nature of stories about other people and how our assessments are correct or more true to ourselves.

Understanding this makes it easier to let go of these derogatory thoughts.

There are three types of turns: self, second, and vice versa.

For example, suppose you felt upset with your girlfriend Jane, and you thought, “Jane should be nicer to me.”

By changing this statement in three ways, consider how the following are real or more accurate.

To myself, “I should be nicer to myself.”
How often do you take yourself down, criticize yourself, and prevent yourself from being happy?
To another, “I should be nice to Jane.”
How often do you react to Jane’s actions in a way that is not kind?
On the contrary, “Jane shouldn’t be nicer to me.”
Have you been able to act in a way that makes it sensible to understand Jane’s actions?

When you see that the thoughts that are causing you suffering are not the truth, it will help you let them go to focus instead on loving what is.

See your thoughts on what they are.
All thoughts are temporary, and most of them are generally untrue.

While this may sound sad or uncomfortable, in reality, it is empowering.

This principle gives you the power to control how you respond to your thoughts throughout your life. It will help you let go of the ideas that bring you down so that you can cultivate greater peace and joy.

To begin, mark thoughts and feelings with gentle curiosity as they arise. And if you see yourself with the more intense face-to-face idea or interpersonal conflict, use the work to get a clearer view.

When you stop believing everything you think, you allow yourself to be more proactive and live the life you want to live.


2 thoughts on “Don’t believe everything you think-suffering is selective.”

  1. Hi Lea 

    Thank you for your ideas and techniques expressed in your post “Don’t believe everything you think suffering is selective”. Rene Descartes said “I think, therefore I am” which is a philosophical approach to the meaning of life. The human brain and thinking is such a complex subject that we are still today attempting to capture its full meaning – without success! Maybe the art of living is to escape our thoughts and just be present. These are the teachings of Echart Tolle. It is a very good idea to check into your thoughts regularly during the day and ask yourself “why am I thinking this?”. “Who is the individual thinking this?”. Most answers come in being silent because we can’t listen and speak at the same time. Therefore I fully support your expression that meditation is a part to overcome excess thoughts. 

    Keep up the good work!

    Louis Munro 



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