Increase your brain capacity to become more aware of your potential.

Focusing is difficult for the brain: this organ gets tired of thinking, just like the muscles. How do you get the brain in shape?

One can learn to use the brain more effectively and train concentration, as well as muscles. We all remember how we learned our first poem in the first grade or in kindergarten to present to Santa to receive a Christmas gift. At least for me, it comes to mind first when I think about when I started memorizing.

There was a small hook with it, of course, because I got a gift for it when I read the poem by heart. There is a bit of selfishness in it. As I was only 5-6 years old at the time, I naturally had that will. As adults, we no longer learn to remember things because the development of modern technology in this field has made us quite comfortable.

1. Be present and let go

It means believe that the more work means done, the more successful they will be. It is commonplace; I can safely suggest that it has also become the norm today. You don’t have to. You don’t have to work all the time if you want to be effective.

Experiments show that solutions often come when you are just like that and just let the thoughts go. Personally, it has helped me a lot when I get away from the thing I get stuck in. I get away from this room. Or even walk away for 5 minutes.

It has done scientifically proven that the frontal lobe that controls thinking then lets go of processes. Simultaneously, it is essential to be without a smart device, but today’s people no longer know well. If you are on a smart device, the brain is not free. Instead of being on a smart device, you should move, take a bath, play with the children, do a workout or go for a walk in nature.

2. Focus on one task

It is inefficient to do everything at once. We only think and learn when we focus. Doing several things at once makes them less efficient in the main task. Rejected was also sold as if women were better at multitasking than men. In reality, both men and women do several things at once when one of the activities has become so automatic that you no longer have to think about it, such as cooking.

That attention is complex, and the brain is easily disturbed. External inputs, such as someone moving or a new e-mail in the mailbox, bother us tremendously. “Our brains do not design for today’s work environment,” our brains are still like a caveman: he responds to every click and movement to prevent a person from being eaten by anyone.

The beauty of multitasking is based only on cognitive benefits. It may seem to us that we can get things done and done faster, but in reality, our productivity will drop by up to 40%! That is a scientifically proven fact.

Jumping from one task to another, the quality of our work also suffers. No smooth flow, though, does our creativity. At one point, we may feel that we are too stuck in the details and lost sight of the big picture.

3. Silence the distractors completely.

To less disturb the brain’s focus, external yammers must be shut down when working: other browsers, telephone, etc. But even if you shut down the external yammers, the inner will come: “Maybe this important e-mail came what I do in the evening. ”That’s why we have to fight the internal stirrers. The following trick will help you do this.

1. Turn off phone alerts – When you’re on a project that requires deepening, put your phone in night mode to avoid phone alerts without getting lost. You can make a few exceptions to achieve peace of mind (for example, you always allow a nursery talk to come through).

2. Turn off computer notifications – To prevent your computer as a tool from becoming a distraction, it’s a good idea to close all unnecessary web windows and programs. It is essential to turn off e-mail alerts. You do not have to reply to the email within 1 minute of receiving it. See point 3.

3. Create a daily schedule and schedule time for focused activities – Use the calendar that suits you (Google, I Cal) and plan the time when you will be responsible for, for example, answering e-mails, preparing offers, or analyzing data.

4. White noise – If you work in an open office or just in a noisy environment, headphones and the blurry background music that sounds there are often helpful in helping you focus and get away from the hustle and bustle of the surroundings.

5. Hour of silence – Door closed or sign out! Let your colleagues know that if there is no absolute emergency, an hour when the “do not disturb” sign hangs on the door of your office will be noticed and observed.

6. – Focus on one thing for at least 20 minutes. For example, an hourglass can help you with this.

7. To-Do list – Keep note paper close: If you remember something that needs your attention in the middle of a workflow, write it down on notepaper. This way, you can be sure that the idea will not be lost, and you will focus on one thing.

8. Set priorities – One of the many ways to set preferences is the Pareto 80-20 principle – 80% of the result obtained through 20% of the activities. It is essential to identify this valuable 20% of activities.

9. 2-minute rule – Usually, tasks that require little time, such as a phone call or an e-mail, tend to be delayed. To avoid procrastination, deal with the matter for at least 2 minutes, and then you can give up. Chances are pretty high that you’ll get it done in no time. And even if you can’t, once you’re starting, you’re much more likely to finish it, even if it takes 4 minutes.

10. Do a quick/unpleasant thing in the morning – Make this awkward phone call right in the morning, then at the beginning of the day, you will feel that you have done something and there is the motivation for the whole day.

4. Plan your time and brain

That means that tasks should be written out item by item. When you complete a job, you need to decide that it is the most important thing right now.

Believe me. It helps a lot if you write it down on paper with your hand. Then, the essential thing stuck better in your brain. Writing has a psychological effect on our brains, then the things take root in our minds, and the brain also realizes that the thing that did write is somehow essential to you, and it will remember it better than.

5. Do top things during peak hours

If it is necessary to think about an important thing,  You must plan a vital thing to do so during the so-called peak hours, when the idea works best, e.g., in the morning. The peak time must do kept as your time.

6. Slice tasks

Even if you have chosen the most important task and are doing it during your peak hours, the brain still tries to postpone things, finding reasons why the job is still impossible. It is helpful to slice work tasks. For example, write “do two slides” instead of “make a presentation.” Filling in such snippets will help you get closer to your goal.

7. Take breaks and, if necessary.

If you have worked hard for 25 minutes, you can then take a break, either move or fall asleep instead. Or close your eyes and meditate, then focus on breathing.

8. Train your concentration muscles

Because concentration is like a muscle, it is possible to train it. How? If you want to get better, you have to practice it. The same goes for concentration: you have to try to work longer and better. “Take this sport. Small steps help. ”

You may think that my recommendations may seem very mechanical and may raise the question of where creativity lies. The way we think about creativity is often a myth. It means believe that the idea comes to mind.

However, scientific research has shown that creativity does always based on a focus on work. Innovation requires the brain to think that it is synthesizing a larger unit than pieces of information. It takes time to gather excellent knowledge from small pieces of information. During the focus, new connections emerge. Creativity is the unique connection between the experience we have collected.

9. Discuss productively

When you are focused, creating new units in your brain, you want to share your thoughts with others. The exchange of ideas is valuable. When one brain makes new ideas, there is no censorship, and every picture looks good. If you discuss things, you can get feedback. Other people lead our thoughts and say apparent stuff we didn’t come up with by you.

Lea

30 Things you should not do definitely for yourself ever again-

and they are as follows.

When you stop running the wrong things, you give the right ones a chance to find you. There is no need to fear the unknown or cling to the past, be bold and always honest with yourself, and you will see how much you can change your life.

American writer Maria Robinson once said, “No one can rewind and start again, but everyone can put an end to things hastily.” There is a great deal of truth in this saying. But before you begin this process of transformation, you must stop dealing with the things that have held you back.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

1. Don’t spend more time with the wrong people. Life is too short to spend it with people who suck the energy out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they will make room for you. It would help if you did not fight for your place. Never push yourself to someone who continually ignores you also your benefits. Don’t forget that your real friends do not those who stand with your side in your glory today, but those who do with you when you are having the most challenging time.

The family is here first. Even if your relationship is wrong, give each other space and try to solve things. If this is not possible, then the connection should be broken for a while, and the hurts should remain healed. But don’t make the mistake of staying away forever, but still, try to fix things because you don’t have to take another family.

2. Don’t run for your problems anymore. Face them. Yes, it will not be easy. No human being in the world can fight counterattacks without effort. We do not have to be able to solve problems in an instant. Humans do not create that way. We do design to irritate, grieve, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that is the essence of living – to face problems, learn from them, adapt, and solve them over time. That is something that makes us the kind of person we are today. Try to enjoy life and know that everything wrong will go away.

3. Stop lying to yourself. You can lie to anyone, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives can only get better if we take risks, and the first and most significant risk we can take is, to be honest with ourselves. Believe in yourself more, the leap of fate is the best and only right solution than you tend to doubt, and the first thought that starts to move in your head is usually the correct thought.

4. Finish putting your needs in the background. The most painful part of the process of fervently loving someone is losing yourself and forgetting that you are worth something. Yes, help others, but allow yourself. If there is such a moment when you can act according to your passion and do what you like, then this is the moment! Don’t consider others more important than you are. Self-destruction will never benefit you.

5. Don’t try to be someone you are no longer. One of the biggest challenges in this life is being yourself in this world, even as it tries to make you look like everyone else around you. There is always someone more beautiful, someone is still smarter than you, some are younger again, but they are not You. Don’t just change to please people. Stay yourself. The right people love you as you are

6. Stop trying to hold on to the past. You cannot start a new chapter in your life if you are continually reading an old branch. We can no longer change the past, but we can change the present for the better.

7. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Doing something and making a mistake is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. There are several failures behind every success, and every failure leads you to win. After all, you regret the things you did NOT do much more than the things you did. Our lives on earth are short to regret.

8. Stop whipping for old mistakes. We may love the wrong person or cry for the wrong things, but no matter how bad they are, one thing is for sure – mistakes help us find people and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes; we struggle, and we even regret some things done in the past. But you are not your faults; you are not your struggles. You are here and NOW, having the ability to shape the course of your day and your future. Absolutely everything that has happened to you in your life prepares you for the moment that is yet to come.

9. Don’t try to buy your luck anymore. Many of the things we covet are expensive. But the things that make us happy are entirely free – like love, laughter, and dealing with our passion.
Separate things and desires from your ego and see what you want and how much they are worth.

10. Stop relying on others. To find you If you are not happy with who you are inside, you are also not satisfied with someone else in the long run. It would help if you first created stability in your own life and only then share it with someone else. Love yourself first, then allow others to love you, just as you are.

11. Stop thinking do mush. Don’t overthink, or you’ll create a problem where it didn’t exist at first. Evaluate situations and take specific steps. You can’t change anything you refuse to face. There are risks involved in making things better. Point! You can’t reach the next level if yourself only stuck in the first one.

12. Don’t think you are ready for anything anymore. No one feels 100% ready when the opportunity arises. Because most of life’s most significant opportunities force us to break out of the comfort zone, this is why we don’t feel very well meanwhile. First, this feeling always sends us when we try something new and not everything comes out the first time, comfort ourselves that we are all just humans and not robots.

13. Stop entering into relationships for the wrong reasons. Relationships must do chosen very wisely. It is better to be alone than to be in someone’s lousy company—no need to hurry. When something does destine to happen, it will happen – at the right time and with the right person, and with the best of preconditions—grace when you’re ready for it, not when you’re lonely. Only get married if you can’t do otherwise.

14. Accept new relationships just because nothing came out of the old ones. You discover that everything you meet in your life has a reason. Some will put you to the test, some will take advantage of you, and some will teach you. But most importantly – some will bring out the best that lies in you. At best, you will find a good friend who is ready to hear you and also say when you talk about “pulsate.”

15. Don’t try to compete with everyone anymore. Don’t worry about things that others do better than you. Better focus on breaking your records daily; Success is a struggle only between YOU and YOURSELF.

16. Be no more jealous than anyone else. Jealousy is the art of keeping track of someone else’s successes. Ask yourself, “What do I have that everyone else wants?”

17. Stop moaning and pitying yourself. Life throws echoes rightly to move you in the direction that is right for you. You may not see and understand it all when it happens, and it can be very harsh. But remember all the negative setbacks you have faced in the past. You will often find that they have taken you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that you are much stronger today than you were yesterday, and you will be.

18. Stop hating others. Don’t live your life by keeping anger in your heart. You do more harm to yourself than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not an expression, “What you did to me is OK.” It’s a saying, “I won’t let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the key let it go, find peace, free yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not only for the benefit of another person but for you as well. If all else fails, forgive yourself, move on, and try better next time.

19. Don’t let others negatively affect you anymore. Refuse to lower your standards to fit someone who refuses to raise their own.

20. Stop wasting time proving yourself to others. Your friends don’t need it, and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you think is right in your heart.

21. Don’t do the same things over and over again without taking a break. The right time is to breathe when you don’t have time for it. If you only do the things you do all the time, you also get the stuff you get. Sometimes you have to look further away from yourself to see something.

22. Don’t miss the beauty that lies in the small moments. Man enjoys the little joys because you may discover that these were great things one day looking back. The best part of your life is the small, unnamed moments spent laughing with some extraordinary person.

23. Don’t try to do everything correctly anymore. The real world does not reward perfectionists but those who complete things.

24. Don’t go the path of less resistance. Life is not easy, especially if you are planning to achieve something valuable. Don’t look for a more comfortable solution. Do something extraordinary.

25. Stop pretending that everything is fine when in fact, it is not. It is perfectly normal for us to lose control sometimes. You don’t always have to be healthy, and there is no need to prove that you are still doing well. You also don’t have to worry about what other people think – cry when you need it – shedding tears is healthy. The sooner you do this, the faster you will be able to smile again.

26. Stop blaming others for your worries. The extent to which you achieve your dreams depends on how much you can take responsibility for your actions. When you blame others for your fears, you avoid responsibility – you hand over power in this part of your life to others.

27. Don’t try to be there for everyone anymore. It is simply not possible to do this, and trying will only lead to burnout. But bringing a smile to the face of just one person CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but the world of this person. So focus on the smaller part.

28. Don’t worry so much anymore. Worrying does not make the difficulty of tomorrow easier but makes it harder to be today. One way to find out if something is worth worrying about is to ask yourself, “Does it matter in a year? But in three or five years? If the answer is no, you don’t have to worry about it.”.

29. Don’t focus on things you don’t want to happen. Focus on what you want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of any great success story. When you wake up every morning thinking that something nice will happen to you, you often find that you were right.

30. Don’t be ungrateful anymore. No matter how well or poorly you are doing, wake up every morning to be grateful for your life. There is someone somewhere who is fighting desperately for himself. Instead of thinking about what you don’t have, try thinking about things you already have.

Lea

If you want something-truly want from the bottom of the heart.

A good heart is better than all the heads in the world.”
— Robert Bulwer-Lytton

Why does it still happen that it will not happen if we want something or someone, or if it happens, we will lose it soon. My personal experience says that even if you want something and you end up getting it, it won’t last for some reason. However, this is not always the case in most cases.

I want to share a story that isn’t over yet.

Namely, I have a massive passion for cars, both for driving them and for repairing them, and also for how to clean a vehicle. It started when I bought myself my first car, a three-door little Wv golf; I was about to burst into happiness and fell in love with that small car on the spot as I first saw it.

Car number two

That love lasted for two years until I did force to demolish it. The next car was a little bigger golf, a perfect vehicle I had driven in in a total of 12 years. Its fate, too, was to go to demolition. Until then, my passion for cars had only grown by the time I knew so much about cars, and I’m sure I know more about cars than the average woman. I can only identify a lot of car brands by looking at them. In the meantime, over the past 12 years, I have learned a great deal about cars, how they work and how they move, which fuel to use and which tires are suitable to drive in a given season, and so on.

When I was looking at the new car, I got a good luck badge, which would turn out to be a happy chance. Namely, I won 10,000 kroons, which in today’s currency is about 1,000 euros. I had never won anything in my life before. This money went to the first installment of car leasing.

The time has come for me to say goodbye to my perfect car and start buying a new car. This time I looked at many cars and went on a test drive, I don’t have a brand preference, but life has shown that the only vehicles I have acquired in my life have been Wlksvagen golf. I am honored to have four cars in them.

The story of Nissan.

Suppose I had been researching this car on the internet for several days, I was ready to call to arrange a driving time. During three days in a row, I studied this car and already imagined driving around and how I was already doing the papers. When I started calling the next day, something strange happened to me. I even had the phone number in my phone contacts, and I was ready to scream. The gases started to rotate in my stomach, and I somehow got so anxious that I don’t call until I didn’t yell at all during the day. And that Nissan stayed there. I didn’t become the owner of the Nissan. Later, I wondered why I received such a warning.

Car number three.

When I got home in the evening, I was so tired that I didn’t start looking for new cars online, but the next day when I started searching again, I found the car I had been looking for, which later became mine. It took me a week to do the paperwork, and finally, I drove home with my light blue dream.

Although I was proud of my new car, my relatives and friends came to visit, and we celebrated when I got home. When I went to work the next day, my co-workers came to admire my car and wish me luck. Because the difference between an old car and a new car was so significant that it seemed like I was in the Stone Age today. I shared pictures of my new car on social media, and I was thrilled and satisfied and very proud that I could do it.

Why am I saying that if you want something from the bottom of your heart, it’s a double-edged sword?

For six months, I was able to ride my new light blue dream. If one fine day I still remember the lovely weather was in October when the day before I had a runny nose, so in the morning, I was always wondering if I would go to work at all or not. However, I decided to go, and later, when my runny nose got worse and worse, my head was like fog, I finally decided to ask myself an hour before the working day.

I hurried home because I felt terrible, but I was still able to focus on driving. I had gone three kilometers when it happened, the car in front braked so sharply that I couldn’t react and moved in from behind. So crazy that my car airbags exploded, and the whole car cabin was full of white dust coming from the airbags for a few seconds. I guess I didn’t see anything and then couldn’t breathe because it hit my throat, and I started coughing.

Disaster.

I probably didn’t understand what had happened when a man ran out of the car in front and opened the door of my car; then I could breathe a little. I still coughed for 10 minutes before I could say a word. The next thing happened very quickly after we both finished the papers, and I ordered a tug and called another friend who came after me. And so the story ended the more I never saw my light blue dream.

One moment and my beautiful car were gone. It was a horrible experience. I have to mention that the accident did not happen at all as I have seen in the movie, but it is ten times worse in real life. Nothing happened to me, but I lost the car, for which I had worked very hard. What happened next was that I had no choice but to start using public transport. It was not a very pleasant experience as I could not buy a new car right away because I was waiting for an insurance decision. I hadn’t used public transport for about 17 years, and it was very unfamiliar and slow.

Here is the place in my life where I learned that if you want something with all your heart and you finally get it, it will still happen so that it wishes to do taken away from you. / why is expecting at the bottom of the heart like a double-edged sword /?

Law of attractions.

To talk about it better and more clearly, I have to start a little behind. About a year before the accident, I happened to hear about something like the law of attraction but didn’t believe it. I was very skeptical about such things. But still, it bit me; I took it as good entertainment. Since my English had improved so much by that time, I started to hear from different people about youtube and how they talked about what happened to them as they implemented the law of attraction more thoroughly in their lives.

About a week after the accident, I sat online again in the morning the weekend was. So I watched one and the other until I came across a video that talked about exactly what happens when you want something very much and it happens that you get it and then you still lose it. The man who talked about it had experienced almost the same things as me.

A-haa moment.

Although he was the manager or owner of a show I don’t remember exactly, It seemed like to one in his story, he worked somewhere on tv and wanted terribly to get his show he had been dreaming about for years. When he then finally got it then all sorts of accidents started to happen. There was a water accident in his entire studio so that he couldn’t film there for at least a week, and much more, one of the spotlights fell two seconds after he got up from that chair.

Then he realized that something must be very wrong if he did what he wanted to do for a lifetime, and still as if fate were against him. That thought didn’t leave him, and he would look for an answer as to why. He went home and started researching less scientific materials at first, and later sci-fi things came into play until he came up with an article where he got an answer.

Everything in this life is energy.

It became apparent to him that everything in this life is energy. If you continuously think about something and become an obsession in your life, you may turn that thing into negative energy. However, you don’t see it that way. Next, if you want something but still don’t believe that you get it and don’t value it, and don’t think you are worth it, then it may happen that you don’t get it. As a further recommendation, do not be naive and superficial about your dreams. I listened to the story as if I did tell between lives to happen, so you will be sent a higher message if necessary.

I began to remember the states of mind I felt when I bought this car, how I mourned the old car I had driven for 12 years, how I missed it because I was probably emotionally connected to this car. How did I feel after I bought this new car if I was still worth it? More of these emotions caused me utterly unnecessary stress and that only I was to blame.

Car number four

For three weeks, I used public transport, and then I bought a car number 4. I had buried my dreams for a while, but the first thing I remember from the moment I got home with a new car was I only informed a few friends and wrote on social media that I got re-wheels down. Which I still drive daily

My conclusion is that to dream big, but do not make things big but make these things ordinary everyday. Every time you dream of something, don’t ruin it with your insecurity and negativity.

Lea

Don’t believe everything you think- suffering is selective.

So how do you understand what to believe and what not? When it does scientifically proven that more than 70,000 thoughts are formed in our heads every day. Then knowing it will not help us in any way. People believe in so many different things, though they believe in astrology, psychics, homeopathy and alternative medicine in general, conspiracy theories, and other strange things. Beliefs arise for various personal, emotional, and psychological reasons and seem influenced by family, friends, colleagues, culture, and society. When an idea does create, it does defend and justified by several arguments. Thoughts come first, then explanations.

One of the best examples is to offer when, in the early Middle Ages, witches began to do burned en masse against Christianity’sistianity’s background. And there are known cases where just someone complained about someone, and a person was killed based on that complaint without further consideration of whether that complaint did base on the truth at all.

The brain

A brain is a machine of beliefs that finds patterns and creates meaning for them. These patterns and purposes shape our understanding of reality. Once ideas do establish, the brain begins to look for evidence to confirm and support their views. As a result, ideas become stronger. Sometimes it would be essential, especially when it comes to self-belief.

From time to time, beliefs may arise simply from one important event. It is sporadic for someone to weigh the evidence for and against something, analyze probability, and make an emotional decision. To see through irrational and dangerous beliefs, we need to look at every statement and story through a filter of skepticism and science.

Don’t believe everything you think could be an anxiety slogan. Sorrowful thoughts that do not want to leave your head make you feel trapped in a prison you have created, where breakfast is fear, tension for lunch, and hopelessness for the evening.

One sentence that affected me for a very long time.

After graduating from elementary school, my teacher wrote in my characterization that I could not study in high school. I still remember that sentence, but it was very offensive at the time. It turned out to be a different effect for me, and I started working after that, and I went to work and school, and later I finished high school. But not with the others just two years later, It was a challenging time when I went to work and school, but that sentence haunted me and became a driving force.

Such typical stories have happened to everyone in our lives, just put your words in the same sentence, and you will get the same result. Haven’t you ever wondered how we let ourselves be affected for years by something that someone once said and carry that burden with us, and we do internally convinced that they were right.

At this point, I would like to share a story that shows the absurdity of our thoughts. One young man who grew up with foster parents admitted that he could have asthma because his father has asthma. The story follows that he grew up with a father who did not accept him and even told him so, and therefore the boy began to believe that he did not deserve a better fate than to remain ill, he was not his father’s fleshly son, yet man thought he could have asthma. Dear parents, don’t even jokingly mention something to your child that bothers you about it. It can leave the child with a lifelong scar.

Meditation

Meditation is one part of how to overcome your excess thoughts. In Meditation, you will understand what the background of your thoughts is and how they gather and why negative thoughts arise, and at the same time, positive reviews do form better.

Is the situation uncomfortable, or is it our interpretation?

Generally, when we experience negative emotions, we say that they cause specific situations or others’ actions. I think we believe that events outside of us drive our discomfort. In other words, we make our feelings external to causal properties. We think we are angry because our partner has not accepted us. We cannot control something, instead of realizing that we can regulate the emotions that arise when we do not focus on others’ actions and interpret them.

What does it mean? It is we who are angry about the interpretation of this situation. We thought he didn’t answer us because something was happening to us or because he was stupid.  Who didn’t know that? The point is that what has actually and objectively happened should not bother us.

If instead of these thoughts, other types of “You haven’t heard me” or “He’s focused on his things,” it’s nothing personal “… Do you think you feel the same way? Not. We certainly wouldn’t have bothered a little. This example highlights a reality that we have not always remembered or that we have not even known: the effect of thoughts on discomfort.

Lost in thought
The human mind is always processing the world around it. Every day is a constant flood of thoughts, questions, and observations.

If you have ever sat in meditation for 10 minutes, you have experienced that thoughts arise (and pass) quickly even if you do not have them do it.

If all these thoughts had a powerful effect, constant thinking would not be a problem! But all too often, beliefs mislead you, take you down, or hinder your ability to do things that matter to you.

Many types of thoughts prevent you from living your best life.

For example.

Scary thoughts narrow your thinking and prevent you from taking action.
Anxious thoughts cause discomfort at the moment.
Anxious thoughts create unpleasant feelings for the future.
Distracted thoughts draw your attention from things that are important to you.

It is not always possible to control when these thoughts arise. But you can develop strategies to respond to them in a way that doesn’t bring you down.

The principle that gives you these powers is that your thoughts are not always right, so you don’t have to believe them.

Don’t believe everything you think.

While it is true that you experience each of your thoughts, they do not always mean what is right in the world.

In most cases, your thoughts are just a story you tell yourself to make sense of the world. It’s all based on your interpretation of the world around you, not a universal truth about reality.

But if you hold on to your thoughts as if they were the ultimate truth, unpleasant feelings will surely follow.

To avoid this scenario, you can equip yourself to deal with these thoughts more effectively.

Suffering is selective (there are two strategies for unleashing)

Some thoughts appear in an instant. Others are repeated and represent a longer story in your mind.

Given the different nature of ideas, it is useful to equip yourself with several processing strategies.

Using Spiritual Marking to Release Temporary Thoughts
Using work to get rid of essential and repetitive thoughts that cause suffering

1) Letting go of temporary thoughts at the moment

One minute you may have a job challenge, and the next minute you laugh at a friend’s joke.

Such examples illustrate how all thoughts and their respective mental states are temporary.

This fact gives you the strength to avoid irritating negative thoughts.

Its strategy is called mental marking. Here is a technique derived from insight meditation.

With spiritual note-taking, you carefully record thoughts or sensations as they arise in your head, giving them a simple one-word description. (e.g., warm, tense, anger, etc.)

There are many benefits to noticing what you think is happening. That will help you stay present and see the content of your consciousness more clearly. It creates a space between you and the thoughts you experience, which gives you more power to act.

How to implement “Subscription.”

Watch what comes to your mind, be it a thought or a sensation.
Note this idea gently, curiously, giving it a one-word descriptor. (Along: “Ah, I see: fear.”)
Let it pass. Resist the urge to capture a thought or feeling. Over time, it fades as an overwhelming sensation, and you can let it give.

Andy Puddicombe, the founder of the gas phase, uses the metaphor of “brushing crystal glass with feathers” to describe the technique of Mental Noting.

You do not reject or reject the idea. Instead, you easily acknowledge its existence so you can bypass it.

2) Releasing repetitive narratives
Everyone experiences repetitive thoughts that cause dissatisfaction at some point.

Often these are the thoughts that should be. (e.g., “The world should be different” or “My important other should behave differently.”)

Such thoughts are permanent. It may seem like your thought is a broken record, coming to this stressful thought over and over again.

“Work,” Byron Katie is a process of investigation that helps you identify and doubt the thoughts that are causing you the most suffering.

The main content of the work is straightforward: believing your thoughts often leads to suffering. That means that grief is selective because your thoughts are not always real. You can choose not to go out of your mind.

Or in his own words:

“I discovered that when I believed my thoughts, I suffered, but when I didn’t believe them, I didn’t suffer, and that applies to every person. Freedom is just as easy. I found that suffering is not obligatory. Never lost, not for a moment. That joy is always in everyone. ”
—Byron Katie

So what exactly is The Work?

Here is a direct approach that does divide into two parts:

Four research questions
Three turns.
Part 1: Four research questions
To begin, find an idea that will cause you suffering in some way. If you have problems with another person in your life, Katie’s “Judge Your Neighbor” worksheet is an excellent way to find those thoughts.

Once you have found an idea that is causing you suffering, continue with the following four questions:

Is this true? (Yes or no. If no, go to question 3.)
As we discussed earlier, most thoughts are just stories. These are not universal truths from the world. This question forces you to consider reality in a specific context.
Do you know for sure that this is true? (Yes or no.)
You can feel strongly that this idea is right! If this seems correct at first glance, try again. Can you know that this is true? Be honest with yourself.

How do you react to what happens when you believe this idea?
Find out what you are doing to yourself by choosing to hold on and believe. Does this thought cause peace or stress? What emotions and physical sensations arise when you think of this idea?
Who would you be without that idea?
Think about what it would be like to let go of the thought that drives you down. How would you feel?

Part 2: three turns
The twists and turns help reveal the contradictory nature of stories about other people and how our assessments are correct or more true to ourselves.

Understanding this makes it easier to let go of these derogatory thoughts.

There are three types of turns: self, second, and vice versa.

For example, suppose you felt upset with your girlfriend Jane, and you thought, “Jane should be nicer to me.”

By changing this statement in three ways, consider how the following are real or more accurate.

To myself, “I should be nicer to myself.”
How often do you take yourself down, criticize yourself, and prevent yourself from being happy?
To another, “I should be nice to Jane.”
How often do you react to Jane’s actions in a way that is not kind?
On the contrary, “Jane shouldn’t be nicer to me.”
Have you been able to act in a way that makes it sensible to understand Jane’s actions?

When you see that the thoughts that are causing you suffering are not the truth, it will help you let them go to focus instead on loving what is.

See your thoughts on what they are.
All thoughts are temporary, and most of them are generally untrue.

While this may sound sad or uncomfortable, in reality, it is empowering.

This principle gives you the power to control how you respond to your thoughts throughout your life. It will help you let go of the ideas that bring you down so that you can cultivate greater peace and joy.

To begin, mark thoughts and feelings with gentle curiosity as they arise. And if you see yourself with the more intense face-to-face idea or interpersonal conflict, use the work to get a clearer view.

When you stop believing everything you think, you allow yourself to be more proactive and live the life you want to live.

Lea

What are some excellent new year’s resolutions?

The beginning of the year is a great time to dream and set goals for the coming year. New Year’s resolutions continue to be popular – which in itself is remarkable to think of creating a better version of you. However, it does assume that almost 8% of New Year’s resolutions can last all year round. Instead, could you throw promises in the trash and try consistent monthly targeting, taking one focus each month?
I wrote down 12 activities for 12 months to focus on instead of New Year’s resolutions and to help you go further in your work life.

Break an old habit and try something new
Do something you haven’t done before. New Year’s resolutions often tend to be significant scary steps that are even unrealistic. You don’t have to give up your job to make your life run smoothly. Maybe instead of setting big New Year’s goals, you need to change some activity or habit in your career and try something new?

If you want to promote, think about what you should do to make others stand out for a higher position. If you feel that you worked overtime last year, see what activities you can delegate or vice versa, suggest to your boss that you want to manage additional projects or clients.

Seemingly small activities lead to significant changes. Do you see that your current company’s cooperation is not practical and will not make you happy? Then it is worth looking for a new job challenge that will make your eyes shine.

Act in your interests
Often we do activities that do not serve our interests. We think more of others. We say ‘yes’ to everything because we don’t want to be rude. Simultaneously, the clock is ticking, and you could contribute at the same time to activities that meet your interests and goals.

On the other hand, we can understand acting in our interests as taking time for one’s favorite activities. Try giving yourself a month to focus on your interests. Take hours after the workday for fun and educational activities: read your favorite books, visit various events and seminars that may or may not be related to your work.

Ultimately, it can become a habit and, at the same time, a valuable skill – the ability to take time for oneself. By spending your free time with hobbies that are both developmental and fun, you also invest in long-term goals. Let us not forget that anyone who does pay work is free to be called a slave. If you work for yourself, then everything is fine.

Distribute your energy wisely.
The more activities you include in your action plan, the more you need to focus on time and your energy resources. Listen to your body and notice when your energy level is low. Take a moment in these moments, even for a few minutes. Then organize the activities based on your energy level.

A balanced diet and good quality sleep time also play an essential role in monitoring energy levels. Take a look at your energy distribution in one month. Keep a log of the moments your energy level is lower and higher, and make the appropriate daily decisions to support your efficiency.

Trust your inner feelings.
How often in the work environment do we listen to someone other than our inner feelings and then regret it? We think through the pros and cons of the situation dozens of times, and it still seems that we are not making the right decision. If this has happened to you, think about why you doubt yourself. Practice listening and trusting yourself.

Next time you start making a decision, try it. How do you feel when you make a decision based on intuition? By doing this more and more consciously, you will help yourself to cope better in unexpected situations in the future.

Learn something new
Consciously learn something new every day for a month. It doesn’t have to be a big undertaking, but any kind of brain training is right to keep your mind steel. Every day is an opportunity to get better and get closer to big dreams.

Be it professional knowledge acquisition, language learning, workshops. There are also various mobile applications where you can test your logical thinking or learn new exciting facts.

Focus on financial awareness
Review your income and expenses. The beginning of the year is the best time for that. Find out, maybe your employer offers some compensation that you don’t use yet. Review your savings. Why not consult a money-conscious person for advice on how to increase your income.

When you stop looking at costs, think about whether you can replace some of the current insignificant prices with developing you. For example, instead of endless shopping to attend various events, increase your network of contacts.

Make a balanced diet, your best friend.
Maybe you sometimes forgot to eat lunch or arrived for lunch only at the end of the working day. Don’t sacrifice your health. For example, add a lunch break reminder to your online calendar at a specific time each weekday. Discipline yourself to eat lunch!

By eating on time, you avoid unnecessary biting breaks and subsequent torture. I prefer healthy snacks and drink water. Your body and mind thank you, and you are much more efficient at work.

If you want to make sure that you make a healthier choice for lunch, make it a habit to prepare food at home. Sometimes, it’s nice to visit some restaurants, because then you can also move. Two in one!

Move more
The human body does mean to move! Whether you have a standing job or a sedentary job – try to excite your body at least every hour. You will immediately feel how new and fresh energy comes into you. That allows you to get away from work for a moment, so at the same time, your spirit rests.

If you have the opportunity to take a short walk in the area during the lunch break, do so. Fresh air puts thoughts to work, and the body gets the movement it desperately needs. Invite colleagues for a walk or do exhilarating exercises together. It is more fun to play sports with friends.

Use your imagination and push the boundaries.
Don’t set limits. What’s more, don’t think you’re not capable of anything. If you want to see yourself doing something completely different in your career path in the future, then believe that it is possible. If you’re going to rise above your current position, believe that it is also possible.

Create two or three different scenarios for how you want your career to go in the future. Ignore all obstacles and see what brilliant thoughts you reach with your imagination. Try to use your imagination in different everyday situations – the older we get, the less we dare to fantasize.

Make your voice sound.
It’s time to get out of hiding and throw yourself in the gray corner! You will probably recognize a situation where you think in retrospect that you could have said it this way and expressed yourself more assertively or even established yourself.

In one month, focus on speaking at every meeting. You can start by asking questions or paraphrasing what has already been saying. Then you can continue to submit new ideas and even speak in public. If your company offers the opportunity to speak at an internal event or public event, use this opportunity. Be brave!

Meet new people
We go to the same places every day. We meet the same people. Being in the same company all the time can also make the way of thinking the same. In this way, you may miss out on good ideas, the latest trends, and opportunities.

Expanding the network of contacts brings you exciting new perspectives and can be very useful in your career. In meetings, you can experience something where someone knows someone who knows someone.

This point is excellent because you can also relate it to previous activities: learning new things and pursuing your interests. These activities will take you to new places where you can quickly meet new people. If you feel that socializing is not your turn, maybe you have a friend who makes new contacts and helps you with playful ease.

Maintain existing relationships
Don’t forget to write sometimes, call those who are already in your contact network. It is by maintaining and maintaining relationships that contacts benefit. However, if you have made contact and then left the communication at a standstill, it is not profitable.

Remind yourself from time to time: old classmates, family acquaintances, friends, clients, teachers, and others. Say hello, feel interested in how they are doing.

You don’t need significant changes to ensure a better and happier life. Not even New Year’s resolutions, which will melt by March and nullify your confidence. Take one step at a time. This way, you can see that you can reach your career goals much more effectively than by immediately pursuing a big and unrealistic goal.

Lea

How to start exercising again after multiple trying and this time succeed.

I was analyzing what went wrong last time.

First, you should start by analyzing what went wrong last time, not to repeat old mistakes. It requires a bit of head work where errors happened done and where that container is corrected. Whether this preparation event did choose incorrectly or the training started with too much load was interrupted because it could not withstand the gear put on.

Or you had to deal with some health problem that didn’t let you continue training at the same level you were used to, but going back to full training seemed hopeless, if not impossible, then you just gave up. There are as many problems and excuses as there are people in this world.

Timing to start exercising.

Timing is king, as always. Choosing the right time is one of the most significant indicators of success. Hours, morning or lunch if possible or evening. Could you choose one of them and stick to it? For most people, I expect to take advantage of it in the evening. My recommendation would be to determine early in the morning before going to work.

Like all the other people, I chose to even time, but it didn’t work in my favor. I often found excuses for not training, and I often missed practice because I was too tired and couldn’t concentrate.

I watched and thought that the idea I wouldn’t get anywhere if I continued the old way, and that’s why I chose the time of the morning. It wasn’t easy at first because I’m not the person of the morning.

When I overcame it with a straightforward methodology, the first thing I did when I woke up in the morning, I consciously thought about the game of the day ahead. What awaited me enormously helped me when there was something pleasant to expect that day. This exercise helped me overcome my frustration before waking up in the morning.

Pros.

I discovered some of the pros when I start training in the morning are having a decent appetite in the morning that I somehow didn’t want to do before. And when I got to work in the morning, I didn’t yawn when I got to work and didn’t think I tried to sleep. And I would especially like to mention that I have not had any problems falling asleep in the evening, at 10 p.m. I was already asleep.

Take the time to get used to the new routine.

Suppose you are a beginner, then opt for more straightforward exercises that will not overwhelm you as it is more or less clear to everyone. That is where I tend to overestimate myself and think I can do more than I need. The next day you will feel tired and unable to continue. Here is the place to think seriously, and do you want this time to continue your strength for the future, or will you give up immediately? I have made this mistake at least dozens of times.

I have tried many sports and found out what is right for me and what is not, it is normal too. If you are younger, you want to do sports that promote speed and strength, such as running and fitness, and ball games. As you get older, you don’t care so much about speed anymore. You want to do calmer sports.

It is an area that I dare to recommend to absolutely everyone. In yoga, almost every person finds something useful to do. There are so many variations that it is endless. Yoga is like an onion with many layers, and sometimes it also causes tears to run. There is something for beginners as well as the advanced, stress relievers and self-developers. Beginners would do advised to start with yoga after later it is possible to progress to any sport.

Benefits of starting an exercise plan a home

You can handle simpler things in your home that does not require cumbersome equipment as gyms have. Nowadays, there are all kinds of options. Check out YouTube. There you will find all types of solutions for different sports. When doing your routine at home, the benefits are the time and pace you can choose and the exercise schedule. And try different styles until you find one that suits you.

Workout results assuming real results.

Mean different things to different people—after all, everyone has various reasons for working out. Maybe you want to keep your heart healthy, have more energy, and reduce your overall disease risk. Or perhaps you have a specific goal, like training for a race, a heavier deadlift, losing weight, or building muscle. The last two, which are both achieved by changing your body composition (how much fat and power you have), can be especially difficult to do.

If your goal is to change your body composition (not that we’re suggesting it should be, but if it is), know that many factors go into losing weight, burning fat, or building muscle. Your genetics play a significant role in your current body composition and how difficult it is to change it. Factors like sleep, stress, hormones, and your fitness history also play a part. That’s not to say it’s impossible—just that it can be very, very difficult. So if you’re not noticing the results you want, realize that it can take months to change your muscle size or body fat percentage. You might be on the right track and need to stay the course.

Start modestly.

It is always wiser to start calm and intelligent than to start training right away. If the start is too difficult, it is likely that in a week or two, you will give up. The good news, however, is that the body usually absorbs the load quite well. Starting easier is always the best choice. Later, if you have already acquired the basics and the habit of exercising daily, then these more difficult exercises will start to interest you and challenge you.

That this time everything will go well and be able to stay on your chosen path to determine the basics

Family

Loved ones are your biggest supporters. Let them know what you want to do and achieve, don’t be afraid to lose their support when the results start to show up. Then they may even join you.

Coach, don’t underestimate the need for a coach. It doesn’t just have to be a specific person but someone who doesn’t directly advise you but only shares useful tips for success. They are found a lot everywhere on social media. Maybe someone’s motivational speech, or hearing how they succeeded, also helps.

Masseuse

Muscle tension is caused not only by sports but also by the mental stress in everyday life. Every one of us needs a good massage from time to time. The handwriting of masseurs is very different. To find out which masseuse is right for you, visit several service providers. You will find the right masseuse soon.

Once you have found a suitable team member, visit him or her once a month and try to get from the elimination of the problem to the prevention phase, IE goes for a massage before any of the more severe issues show up. It does often said that the work of a masseur does underestimate just when you start training. If the pain is so great that you can’t stand it anymore, you only start looking for help. Regular professional massage should be part of your arsenal if you want to achieve this once in your sport.

Physiotherapist

Have you decided to start exercising regularly? You could first visit a professional physiotherapist. What should a physiotherapist first evaluate? Be sure to check out his resume. We all have different bodies and need a unique approach. A good physiotherapist will first assess your body and posture and recommend exercises that will benefit you. Follow them because they take into account your specifics.

Lea

Steps to stepping outside your comfort zone.

So how do you figure out when it’s time to step out of your comfort zone and take a new look at your life and whether it’s necessary at all?

Our lives are too short, not to do that. One reason for this is that once you have reached a routine in your life that has become very comfortable and is getting boring. Work and home are the only activities you do; then it’s high time to push yourself a little and see what else life offers.

Getting stuck in the past and getting out of the comfort zone

It would help if you did understand that we are no longer who we were yesterday or a few years ago; we are continually evolving. It is important not to get stuck and get stuck; a person must continuously move and develop. If he gets stuck somewhere, things start to get sour; it’s like stagnant water. Comfort zones and a habitually safe environment can become harassing, signaling that human development has stalled and needs to move forward.

First, what to do, first to step out of my comfort zone.

My suggestion would be to go somewhere higher and see what you see and how you see the same things on a higher level. For example, if you drive to work every morning, you see the same cars and houses as every day, then this time you can pick the tallest place on your way and go to the roof and see what you see, what you notice if some trees look different in the way when viewed from above.

Do you see something that you haven’t noticed before, do you see something that fascinates you that you haven’t noticed before, and does the sky look bluer when viewed from the roof of the house or not? Maybe you see a restaurant you’ve noticed before and would like to visit, or you may find out that the lamp shop you’ve been looking for has been on the next street you’ve never been back. Or you discover a new business idea instead.

The extra opportunity could be pointed out to stepping out of my comfort zone.

But go on a trip, not a tourist trap that has already been planned for you, do something different. Not everyone can afford to travel to Hawaii for ten days. But what to do if you happen to have a free day to take a car and start driving without a destination and without knowing where to go and when to return? The goal should be to go where you have never been before and get to know the surroundings.

Or go hiking in the woods, the forest is not for everyone, but I recommend to go to nature and enjoy the fresh air and beautiful weather.

The best medicine to overcome frustration and step out of the comfort zone is

Different experiences from the past (disappointments, bad sayings, feelings of inferiority, fears, condemnation, etc.) can hinder our development throughout our lives. The cure for this is simple: one of the most potent tools is forgiveness. Many people think that the wrong person does not deserve such a good deed. But you do a good deed to yourself, the stone falls from your heart, and when it has failed, you feel incredible lightness. But forgiveness must be real, not just an empty word. Forgiveness must come deep within you so you can feel how it worked. It is like breaking free from the oppressive situation.

Forgiving is made easier by the fact that you don’t have to meet someone in real life. You can meaningfully go back to that situation and forgive the person who did too much to you. Let’s be honest; this person probably didn’t know what pain he was doing to you. He was perhaps tangled, stressed, tense, scared, and so on. At that moment, he behaved that way because he could not know otherwise. But remember that forgiveness is a good deed for you; it does not mean that you should trust the person who let you down again.

If you have wronged someone in the past, apologize to them in the same way and your heart. If possible, do it realistically; believe me, he appreciates it!

Experiment.

I happened to hear about this experiment a long time ago what I want to share with you. It does intend for introverts, but at the same time, it is suitable for everyone to try. This experiment includes the following.

When a group of people had gathered the next morning, people did state that now it was the case that you would leave all your personal belongings here at the class table and go, no money, no mobile phone, no smoke, and no water allowed. Next, people did tell to go to the bus and get about 10 kilometers to the train station center.

They did put so kilometers apart from the train station, each in a different place, that it would not all be together, and it was clear that this is now the case. You have to start without money and everything, and whoever gets it back will get $ 1,000. Now think of the introverted people in the middle of the train station and nothing they have to rely on next. There was no money to return, no water or smoke who were smokers or cell phones, and were thrown into gold water very cruelly.

The question is, what would you do in such a situation.

One of the younger girls immediately began to cry hysterically and thought she would die immediately. Others still immediately picked up anxiety about what to do then.

Smoker

The experimenters watched them remotely for what they were doing. One of the men then left because it seemed that no one would come to his rescue while staying and decided to go to the train station and look around for what could happen next. He was the one who was a smoker; of course, he had a craving for smoke that would reduce his anxiety. He looked from a distance, there were smokers at the railway station door, gathered himself and asked for a cigarette, from whom he asked was not against and kindly shared. It was the first time in his life that this man started a conversation with a stranger. He was surprised.

Chicken

A man from the group who couldn’t do anything went to the train station, wandered there for a while, and saw nothing would happen. He walked for a time and noticed an ad looking for people for their mascot. In this case, it was a chicken; he gathered his courage and went to a fast-food restaurant and had himself hired as a chicken for a couple of hours. It was a solution for him to get back.

Opera singer

One of the women in the group who was afraid of people but an excellent singer came to a solution when she had reached the railway station and then watched a young violinist play and in front of her was an open suitcase where people threw money. He looked at him for so a few hours and thought it was the only way he could get back. There was nothing left; he took a paper cup from the cafe and stood where the violinist had been before, and closed his eyes tightly, and began to sing. And what came out of her mouth was pure arias from Madame Butterfly. Of course, the people stopped and listened devotedly, and in half an hour, he had the money to drive back. He went back to school by taxi, not by train.

The smoker

I met one of the younger men in the group and looked around to see what I could do. As the smoker had become a little more courageous, they offered to wash the dishes in the fish restaurant. So they got the money for the return trip.

The girl who burst into hysterical crying was so traumatized that the passers-by called the police, and from there, she did not go back to school now made note that parents about this police department.

One of the men decided to go back on foot; in the meantime, he did pick up because he was short of fluid.

Who do you think won that $ 1,000?

I would have offered that opera to a woman, but in fact, the smoker won with her younger partner and split the victory in half.

The moral of this story for me is that introverts should not remain constrained to such difficult challenges.

But if you are an extrovert or an extremist, you should not lack ideas about making your life more exciting.

Set a goal to learn a new foreign language

However, it takes at least a year to learn a foreign language. Courses are the ones where you can start, although this is not the best solution. The best solution would be.  Finding a new friend in the original language and watching movies and television in that language. That’s how I learned English.

Lea

Don’t sweat the small stuff it all small stuff.

Each of us is aware of the situation where everyone around us is furious, starting in the morning: no sugar bowl was found in the usual place, coffee was poured over a cup, we got stuck in traffic in the morning … and that’s just the beginning of the day, not to mention the nervous losses. Besides, the irritation doesn’t decrease; on the contrary, you start to notice that every little thing drives you out of balance. The situation is normal, but to say that it is the norm is wrong. We have to figure this out.

Causes of irritation

Very often, when the nervous system is overloaded, we start to perceive every detail sharply: there is a lot of work that cannot be done in time. Are you overwhelmed both at work and home, or are you tired of the hustle and bustle before an event? In other words, increased stress leads to nervous exhaustion. And no matter how you convince yourself, returning to a peaceful state is difficult. The best option is to let everything go. If this is not possible (which happens most often), you need to schedule your activities to have a “window” for rest. Otherwise, there will be a complete neurological breakdown, and unfortunately, you will not be able to do without a doctor. Yes, unfortunately, a workaholic is harmful.

There are situations in our lives that we cannot change, such as parental divorce, loss of property, etc., that severely undermine our vitality. In this case, the accumulated internal experience, suffering, tension causes aggression for any reason.

If you realize that you have power under certain circumstances, remember it every time, or try to be disgusted with the cashier in the supermarket if he asks you not to put the basket in front of the cashier as soon as it is your turn. Knowing the source will help you cool down a bit.

When it comes to controlling emotions, this is not quite the right move because by not allowing aggression to squirt out, you drive it into the subconscious, and from there, it can negatively affect your body’s condition. You need to get rid of the accumulated negativity, just not through conflicts with your loved ones, but better through the gym, walking in the park, through any physical activity.

Irritation should not be equated with emotion at the time it occurs. Because if you submit to provocation, you cannot separate yourself from anger, rage, and anger even to the wrong stimulus. However, if you start to watch what is happening as if you are apart and aggression yourself from the outside, the whole point is that there can be no such reaction without your direct involvement. It disappears immediately in the absence of charging.

Avoid prolonged contact with people who make you nervous. If possible, avoid contact with them, do not react to their provocations, and you could think about changing jobs at all. Because the constant nerve tension catalyst doesn’t do you any good, especially if you have to keep your dissatisfaction in check all the time, do not bring the situation to a catastrophic end. Believe me, nothing happens with an irritant effect, but you let it bother you for health reasons. Think about what is more important to you: money, or curbing daily internal protest, or health.

I was personally helped by a single sentence very much, “Who are you so you can get angry.” If you can’t answer it in the first ten seconds, then you don’t have the right to get angry; it’s that easy.

And in general, why am I? It happens that you woke up in a good mood in the morning, there are many plans, the desire to implement them is even greater, and then, as ordered, it started! The children are hysterical, the man can’t find socks, everyone pulls you from all sides, and they want something from you, something is lost, something breaks, and everything around you is nervous. The desire to learn, the desire to do something for oneself, for one’s loved one, disappears immediately, and the desire to shout at everyone first arises and then to feel sorry for oneself and lie on the couch.

Every person has many reasons for nervousness and anger every day. Some are angry with themselves: you see you slept again, they didn’t have time, they lost something, they didn’t do what they needed in time, they didn’t work. Others blame others for their failures and blame others.

The former is likely to constantly incessant and suffer, and the latter is confident in their infallibility. But for both, anger prevents them from adequately assessing the situation and making the right decision. Besides, hateful words are usually said in anger, words that are later regretted. And the culmination of a violent quarrel is an attack that is far from always possible: the relationship breaks down.

What if you’re angry enough to explode? If it seems that the only way out is to let off steam: to express immediately everything that is boiling in your soul? Those who do so are referring to psychologists who say driving emotions inward, rather than allowing them to escape, is the path to many illnesses, including heart attack and stroke.

How can you prevent yourself from becoming a bitter creature?

Understanding the cause

Anger does not come from anywhere; it certainly has a reason. We listen and honestly confess what triggered that emotion. Maybe we will stop finding anger and start solving the problem that made us nervous?

For example, a colleague annoys and angers us, we stick to him with every little thing, and we hardly restrain ourselves so as not to be rude.

We are angry that my husband did not comply with our request, and it was easier to remind him.
So we learn to think more and more with emotions.

We count to a hundred

or until we calm down. This is an old, proven method that few uses, while others are too common. It would help if you counted by inhaling slowly, deeply. Some are in a hurry to stop counting so that there is still time to throw out the irritation and proclaim, “Stupidity, that’s your method.” We put ourselves in someone else’s place

We have the opportunity to imagine the consequences that await us when we make our claims in the wake of evil. What effect do our words have? How will our relationship be built in the future? Would we like to be talked to in that tone?

After all, we are not so naive as to think that our interlocutor will try to gain our support in response and “flag his tail” like a guilty dog. Even if our anger was somewhat justified and the aggression “What you sow, you reap,” “as the proverb says. Our adversary begins to defend himself – releases his claws and exposes the thorns. No one loves humiliation.

When we break down, we don’t get rid of negative emotions, and – we shift them to others. And there is no need to doubt – the answer will definitely come.

So let’s follow the advice: “If you can’t say anything good, you better keep quiet.”

Take a sober shower.

Of course, this choice is good at home; you can use a regular sink in other conditions: turn on the cold water and rinse the flushing face. If you are afraid that your makeup will suffer? Then put your hands under the cold water and rub your senses.

Remember

We are not a chronically evil people; we, like everyone else, have periods of exacerbation when we react particularly sharply to circumstances. Tired of work, we drive home, and there are several kilometers of traffic jams ahead. What are the benefits of getting angry and screwing yourself? After all, this will not solve the problem, but we will get home in such a stressful state that our family will not be happy, and everyone will scatter in their rooms to not get into conflict.

We use downtime to relax. We take out our favorite photo: there is a girl who smiles, or a man, or a child, or a favorite animal, and the back has a positive desire. And our anger goes away as if suddenly we can’t just get angry looking at a dear face.

Positive above all

The world is not just revolving around us, and we are not the only people with emotions. But do we like people with frowning and angry faces? Of course not. We try to stay away from them. They start behaving the same way we do when we grumble, resent, resent, and talk badly.

The world around us is for everyone, but overall it is neutral.

“Two people looked through one window. One saw rain and mud. The second – the foliage of green shoots, spring and blue sky. Two people looked through one window … “. 

What do we choose – mud or spring, anger or joy? Of course, we want to live in harmony with ourselves, people, and the world, and not fight and hate. They say that “from constant anger, the heart hardens and the ray of light does not penetrate it … Good sprouts do not grow where there are darkness and darkness – there a person digs a grave for his Soul …”.

Breaking bad thoughts, tuning in to the positive is not easy, and here you have to be constantly strong and consistent. The result is worth it.

“Free your heart from anger, because hatred never destroys hatred with anger, but the absence of anger destroys it,” Buddhists teach.

Remember, the most powerful weapon is a smile in all cases.

A little more – and are you ready to burst into anger? Is it strong dissatisfaction with a particular activity of loved ones, or are you one step away from shouting – just like that, for no particular reason? Allow yourself and your loved ones to experience all the feelings, even the negative ones – they are also part of our personality and have a right to exist. But it is important to learn how to use them correctly – constructively and safely for others. However, each parent must rebuild their resources by doing things for adults or doing something exclusively for themselves – otherwise, the risk of psychological burnout increases. Allow yourself to be a “bad mother” sometimes: no one can always stay calm and optimistic; we are not robots!

How not to get upset about the little things

Seek medical attention and check your health. Irritability and resentment often cause various diseases, such as thyroid gland. Pay attention to your body and follow the usual rules: sleep at least 8 hours, spend more time outdoors, exercise regularly, eat more fruits and vegetables, and limit your alcohol consumption.

How to stop the little things after annoyance – think about whether everything in your life is right for you. Your irritability may be caused by dissatisfaction with your life or yourself or a conflict between your wishes and opportunities.

In this case, you will not overcome the irritability if you do not solve the main problem. You may need to see a psychologist or psychotherapist. Don’t be proud but set realistic goals for yourself.

Reading recommendation The God of Small Things by Arundhati Roy. An audio version is available on Youtube https://youtu.be/iH2BrZ5k7Dk.

Lea

Health benefits of gratitude

It is the healthiest of all

human emotions. The more you

express gratitude for what you

have, the more likely you will

have even more to express

gratitude for. – Zig Ziglar

Feeling Gratitude is the easiest way to achieve in life exactly what you really want to achieve.

Gratitude as a feeling is the best thing every person can do and create for themselves. If we can be grateful for the things and people in our lives, and use the feeling of gratitude that comes from the bottom of your own heart. Then we can be happy.

The heart had to be a smarter organ than the brain. Today, scientists know that it is the heart, the organ on which our physical and mental health depends most directly. The heart emits electromagnetic waves and creates a powerful field around the heart that affects other organs, all the cells in the body. The more harmonious the heart’s energy, the more harmonious the rest of the body works, the more energy and power we have.

When we feel gratitude, we are detached from the pressures of our daily lives and our EGO. And we can let go of our needs or get something we don’t already have.

Joni’s story.

However, if you still can’t feel grateful, I’d like to share one story. This story tells of a young man saying his name is Jon. His story begins at an early age because he did not live in the best conditions and his parents’ relationships were very bad because his father had lost his job and could not take responsibility for taking care of his family and started drinking, and when he drank he often attacked his mother.

Because he was very tender, he could not understand why his father was hitting his mother, he is so big, and he felt terribly guilty that he could not protect his mother when he was only 5.6 years old. He felt terribly humiliated and had trouble wetting the bed. Of course, the mother tried to protect the child from this problem and brought her several pairs of panties before she went to school so that the boy could survive at least the school-day.

But then his classmates found out, and it was the scariest experience of his life. His father also teased him about the problem. However, he was the cause of the problem. This problem was psychological but grew chronic. Whenever something unpleasant happened to Jon, he had a drop of trousers that he couldn’t control. It lasted the whole of elementary school.

When Jon had graduated from elementary school, he realized that he no longer wanted to live with the problem. His father had found work again, and they could afford better living conditions and moved out of the area, and his father stopped drinking. Father became Jon’s greatest supporter.

Since he was no longer a little boy, the problem became so unpleasant that the whole family started looking for help. They found a very helpful psychologist, but the problem had become chronic, so he recommended going to the surgeon. The doctor did him a small incision that lasted only half an hour.

After the operation, Jon’s life changed completely, he no longer felt worthless, and he was able to move on with his life, feeling like a full-fledged person. When Jon went to the doctor after the check-up, he received the answer that everything was fine. If you could only imagine Jon’s face shining like the sun, and the Doctor was very pleased, he said, that’s why I became a surgeon to see such bright faces that make my heart warm.

When he went to the new school in the fall, he was more confident than e. To this day, he has left this problem behind and lives a happy life with his family, and he became a Marine.

This story’s moral is that if you want to achieve something good, you will start to solve it. Do not wait until the problem has become chronic.

Be grateful for what you have.

What to be grateful for in your life.

You can be grateful for so many things, even things that seem instantly so mundane and elementary to you.

You have a warm room where you have a refrigerator so that you run the tap with clean and hot water every hour whenever you want. Gratitude can be found at any time and in the surrounding person.

How to practice gratitude

You can practice it very; differently, you can write down all the things you are grateful for. I know this list will be extremely long, and not being able to separate everything from the more important ones.

If you have never done this in your life, it may seem a little annoying and even unpleasant. My suggestion would be to write at the beginning only the 3 most important things you have and then do it every morning and evening before going to bed. Make it a small ritual in your life.

Gratitude EXERCISE

Focus on your heart area and breathe calmly and evenly, a little deeper than usual (5-6 seconds in and 5-6 seconds out).

Imagine you are breathing through your heart. You breathe calmly and deeply, and the air moves through your heart.

Continue to breathe through your heart and, at the same time, recall a time when you were feeling well when your heart was light and full of gratitude. It can be a beautiful place, a good friend, or a pet dear to you. Feel grateful; grow that feeling as strong as possible within yourself! Note that your body becomes calm and relaxed. Satisfaction fills your mind.

At first, this writing somehow seems like a waste of time and a pointless activity. In that sense, you can still repeat and repeat as long as you start believing it.

For example, if your biggest wish is to get a new car, then, in that case, it could be the following. Imagine that you are sitting in your car feeling good-looking around and watching the armature you remember some stories about it, and you start to smile, look around, and another story comes to mind with the gear lever, etc.

Then you look at your hand, and you sit down, get behind the wheel, and you’re thrilled. You drive home for the first time in your new car; all the neighbors come to greet you and pat you on the shoulder and say a good job. I’m sure you’ll see the same dream car on the road, or somewhere in the parking lot, at least 5 times the next day.

Suppose you need more money than, there could be the following. My recommendation would be to treat money as a bad thing; money is in your life so that you can enjoy life, and it is always enough. If you are short of money, then you should be grateful for what you have. A little suggestion if you happen to find a penny somewhere, then pick it up and put it in a special place and say you’re my lucky money. And every time you hold it in your hand, you feel like you are the richest person in the world.

Gratitude is all that is not taken for granted.

1. Waking up in the morning this morning light for your life and strength. Today for your food and joy of life. If you see no reason to be grateful, it is your fault. Tecumseh, leader of the Shawnee Indians

2. In expressing gratitude, we must never forget that the most important thing is not to say these words but to live by them. John F. Kennedy, 35th President of the United States

3. As I began to count the blessings I had received, my whole life changed. Willie Nelson, singer, and songwriter

4. Think about your current blessings, which each person has many, but not the past failures that each person has. Charles Dickens, writer

5. We can say that we are alive only when our hearts are aware of our treasures. Thornton Wilder, writer, and playwright

6. Gratitude is a vaccine, antidote, and antiseptic. John Henry Jowett, clergyman, and writer

7. Gratitude is wealth. Deafness is poverty. Songbook of Christian Science

8. From time to time, our own fire goes out and is re-ignited by someone else’s spark. Each of us has reason to think with deeper gratitude to those who have kindled a flame in us. Albert Schweitzer, Nobel Peace Prize winner, physician, missionary, and philosopher

9. A grateful heart is constantly a feast day. W.J. Cameron, journalist, and businessman

10. No obligation is more urgent than giving thanks. St. Ambrose, the theologian, and Catholic bishop

11. Miracles are not in conflict with nature, but with what we know from nature. St. Augustine, the theologian, and Catholic bishop

12. you may go out in the early morning for a walk in the fresh air and come back as a completely different person – charmed, charmed. ”Mary Ellen Chase, teacher, and writer

Lea.

Why do people procrastinate-myself include

Procrastinate or stretching, not meeting deadlines, being late, or postponing is one of the essential wastes of time. According to a study by DePaul University psychologist Joseph Ferrari, the number of deferrals has increased from 5% to 25% in the last 30 years.

And these are people who admit that they regularly postpone things and are therefore unable to meet deadlines. So many other robbers do not acknowledge procrastination but justify the non-observance of deadlines with external factors.

The simplest example of this would be how many times we have postponed a car wash because it does not seem to be the most crucial task at the moment.

The reasons for procrastination can be found in very different ways.

It is popular to complain that there is a lot to do now, so it is wise to procrastinate some activities.It seems fast and complicated today, but much more comfortable tomorrow. We forget that when we arrive tomorrow, the day will be filled with some surprises, time-wasters, and again we will be in a hurry, and also we will procrastinate some deadlines.

According to several researchers, we are needy at estimating the time spent. The procrastination is due to the victory of impulsively over future benefits. Everything that gives results now and now is more pleasing to us. Further, the potential income is procrastination to the future, the less important it seems to us.

So we are consuming an immediate benefit (procreation instead of doing it) now, and we are prepared to pay more interest on it in the future (problems caused by procrastination). In some ways, it is very similar to the whole modern life around us. The more we procrastinate things, the more significant problems await us in the future, and even more action is needed to solve them. So what to do?

Most traditional time management tips help against procrastination – set goals, set priorities, reduce distractions, motivate yourself, and on.

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However, some suggestions are specifically for procrastinators.

Sticky notes help me; I have a separate place where I put them. I have an independent board on the workshop wall where I have all the important things written down. Another kitchen area is a separate notebook on top of the refrigerator where I can write my purchase needs.

And surely you also don’t forget that there are modern solutions like one example google calendar which is available on most computers that you can sync with your phone. This is one of the best solutions that suits me.

Another trick I use when planning my time is that I also plan my free time; one example I have made clear to myself that on a working day after 20:00, I no longer work with a computer, then my time starts where I no longer make decisions. The reason because the head is tired and no longer works properly.

Most procrastinators use the phrase “yes, but”

Most procrastinators use the phrase “yes, but” when communicating with themselves or others. For example – “I know I have to do this report, but I’m in a hurry right now.” Or – “I have to reply to this email, but I don’t have enough information to do it.” If so, you should be forced to use “yes, and…”.

In the previous examples, it would be much more positive to say the sentences: “do I have to do this report, and at what expense can I find this time now?” Or “I have to reply to this e-mail and get more information in advance.” another meaning? The problem is the same, but we have already taken a step towards a solution by describing the problem.

Leave yes-but behind and use yes-and! At this point, I would like to remind you of a comedy movie if you remember Jim Carry starring I guess it was called “Yes man” if you have seen this movie, then you are talking about what I’m talking about.

Another simple word to avoid is “later.” If an activity is planned for later, it probably won’t be done. Vague promises such as “tomorrow” or “next week” must also be avoided. Once again, the rule of specific deadlines applies – when planning or re-planning activities, they must have a particular date and time deadline!

The best way to deal with unpleasant tasks is to do them in the morning between 04.00 and 12.00, if you do unpleasant jobs in the morning, you are done, and you can focus on pleasant tasks.

We all know the answer to the popular question, “how to eat an elephant?” The answer is, “one mouthful at a time.” They are unpleasant, often time-consuming, of vague importance, and therefore difficult to motivate to deal with. Such work must be seen as an elephant and not postponed to the future because “I don’t have the appetite or time to eat an elephant right now.” All right, 10 minutes.

Very often, it is enough to start to complete the whole project. Very often, I also have a problem writing articles. If I have a topic, I let it mature for 1-2 days; in the meantime, I look at another piece and read about it, and so I dream the same. But I know if I have one day to meet that deadline, I have to start writing. I have developed a routine for myself which is as follows, I have put together my own

the whole meditative background of the music, and it may not be verbal. My attention moves elsewhere and unable to focus. Usually, it takes me 6 hours, and then I start writing.

The latter recommendation is a bit extreme today but still extremely useful.

To avoid procrastination, you must disconnect yourself from the Internet! It’s not that we’re interrupted by social programs or incoming emails from behind our computers. It is enough to see the e-mail icon and “go check for incoming messages.”

Again, this is an emotionally enjoyable activity that we are replacing with a potentially less enjoyable, delayed activity. According to Psychologist, a professor at Carleton University, people spend 50% of their time online postponing activities. That is why I occasionally do such postponed work on an aircraft that does not (yet) have an internet connection.

You don’t even have the opportunity to check the news or new messages, and the offline environment also helps to make long-delayed and tedious commitments. And most importantly – for example, 2 hours of organizing your email inbox gives you a cheerful emotional slap that lasts for days! So, whether we are procrastinators or not, it is very much a question of attitude. Yes-but-life stayed yesterday, and yes-and-life begins today.

And one more thing I wanted to clarify.

The question is whether we are lazy when we procrastinate things.

To justify me and others, I can say that I do not consider myself a lazy person. Sometimes life grows over and over again. This has happened to absolutely everyone. It has nothing to do with laziness, but we need to learn to plan our time better. I don’t know if time planning is taught in today’s schools or not, but I’ve heard that people in leading positions are trained. Maybe then the primary school should introduce such a plan as well.

Finally, a joke about procrastinates things.